I'm loyal. I'm tenderhearted. I'm considerate. Granted, I may not approach situations the way that some would but that doesn't make me "difficult". That makes me "different"...from them. I often speak my mind but not always. My expressions do a lot of talking for me. Because of this, I try to be mindful of what I'm thinking so as to not hurt the feelings of someone in case they interpret puzzlement as judgement. Most of the time I'm thinking "I don't get it" and they might see "You're an idiot"; and, to be fair, that is sometimes what I'm actually thinking. But, I'm honest. I don't see the point in lying and, really, it's just easier to tell the truth. It's so much easier to remember what is true than what is not.
I'm scared sometimes. I have two very real fears. 1) That I'll die like my aunt and not be found for a week...like my aunt; and 2) That I'll be forgotten, by those whom I hold dear. Having a legacy, of sorts, is important to me. I want to leave a positive mark on the world. I want to remembered for the good that I've done, whatever it might be. I can hope and work towards making a positive change in my own life in ways that others note positive things in their lives because of me.
I'm not afraid to love. I'm not afraid to be hurt, emotionally. Wounds heal. I can say this with the luxury of having never been in an abusive relationship. I hope I never encounter a situation, like that, that makes me afraid to love or to let others in. And I take heart in knowing that I've never put anyone through an abusive relationship. I hope. I have manipulated in the past but I think that was due to being young and seeing that in relationships that were modeled for me. I strive very earnestly, in my current relationships, to not employ manipulative tactics. I ask for things out of genuine need and I do things out of genuine desire to do well and good for the people that I love. And I hope, in time, the men that I love can love me back to the best of their ability. I don't know if love matches love in relationships. I know that it can wax and wane and is often in flux. There's nothing wrong with that. You have to make room for growth and learning.
I'm constantly looking at things in my life and asking: How can I do better? It doesn't mean that I always take the steps needed to make them better but I am always looking at what can be done. Sometimes, I'm overwhelmed at the things ahead of me and other times, I'm energized by them. It really does run a path of hills and valleys.
As for my men. I love my "sexy fella" and recognize the limitations in our relationship and I love my "Em Ess" and hope that we can move forward as we've been doing so far. Having them in my life inspires me to pursue my authentic self and any and all the passions that I've been wanting to for years. Much as my bestest friends have for years.
Excited for the tomorrows in my life. And a little scared too.
Nam Myoho Renge Kyo